{"id":519,"date":"2007-01-26T21:44:46","date_gmt":"2007-01-27T03:44:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cottrillcompass.com\/blog\/2007\/peacemaker-seminar-day-1.html"},"modified":"2007-02-11T07:59:41","modified_gmt":"2007-02-11T13:59:41","slug":"peacemaker-seminar-day-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cottrillcompass.com\/blog\/2007\/peacemaker-seminar-day-1.html","title":{"rendered":"Peacemaker seminar, Day 1"},"content":{"rendered":"<p align=\"left\"><strong>Today we had the first half<\/strong> of the conference we&#8217;re attending in Puebla, Mexico.&nbsp; It&#8217;s being put on by Toby Casteel and Roger Oliver, both missionaries here in Mexico.<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">The seminar is all about &#8220;Peacemaking&#8221;.&nbsp; Like many people, I&#8217;m suspicious of formulas, trends, or &#8220;directives from above&#8221; that are supposed to be &#8220;biblical&#8221;.&nbsp; Whether I&#8217;m right or wrong, I rarely recommend books or materials, at least publicly.&nbsp; But I will say this about the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/exec\/obidos\/ASIN\/0801064856\/jcotsweb-20\" target=\"_blank\">Peacemaker material<\/a>, which we&#8217;re using at this conference:<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">If you look at it with an open heart, <strong>it will help you to wrestle with what God has to say in the Bible about our relationships with one another.<\/strong>&nbsp; Even if you were to reject everything that Ken Sande (the author of the book and founder of the organization) has to say about peacemaking, it&#8217;s worth your time to read the book.&nbsp; It brings up Scripture again and again and brings us face to face with what the Bible says about our responsibility as Christians.<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">That being said, let me share two (of many) things that struck me today.&nbsp; Having been through the material before, different things hit me each time I look at it.<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\"><strong><font size=\"+1\">First<\/font><\/strong>, I was thinking about some of the reasons we <em>avoid<\/em> dealing with conflict.&nbsp; One thing we discussed is why (in 1Cor 6:1-8) Paul tells believers that they should not be filing lawsuits against one another.&nbsp; I wrote,&#8221;<em>[It] shows we are incapable and defeated, smearing God&#8217;s name and bringing His power into doubt.&#8221;<\/em><\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">Later I thought that it actually brings many of His attributes into doubt &#8211; for example,&#8221;If they follow a God of<strong> love<\/strong>, why can&#8217;t they <strong>love<\/strong> <em>each other<\/em>?&#8221;&nbsp; We also talked about how a lawsuit is a <strong>shallow solution<\/strong> that really doesn&#8217;t get to the heart of the matter.<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">But then I got thinking&#8230;we often <em>avoid<\/em> conflict for some of the same reasons.&nbsp; We&#8217;re afraid that if the church\/our friends\/the world finds out about this or that conflict, they might:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\">Think I&#8217;m not a good Christian <\/div>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\">Wonder why God couldn&#8217;t keep me from that sin <\/div>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\">Wonder why my &#8220;religion&#8221; isn&#8217;t doing me any good <\/div>\n<li>\n<div align=\"left\">Think we&#8217;re all hypocrites<\/div>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p align=\"left\">But in the end, we are commanded to make things right with one another.&nbsp; And we must trust God for the results, and trust God to protect His good Name, as we obey.&nbsp; And after all, 90% of the time, everyone else<em> knows<\/em> there&#8217;s a problem anyway &#8211; it&#8217;s not like we&#8217;re hiding it all that well!<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\"><strong><font size=\"+1\">Another thing<\/font><\/strong> that struck me had to do with cross cultural conflict, which we are actually dealing with tomorrow (so maybe I&#8217;ll have to change my mind then!).&nbsp; This one is hard to explain in short form, but we were talking about Jesus&#8217; words in Mat 18:&nbsp; <em>If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone&#8230;.<\/em><\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">In his book <strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/exec\/obidos\/ASIN\/0830816577\/jcotsweb-20\">Cross Cultural Conflict<\/a><\/strong>, Duane Elmer talks a lot about the <em>indirect<\/em> confrontation of&nbsp;various&nbsp;cultures.&nbsp; It&#8217;s inappropriate in most cultures (unlike in Canada and the States) to <em>directly<\/em> confront someone.&nbsp; You work through the community, but you allow the person to save face by not being direct &#8211; not directly mentioning their sin, especially to <em>them<\/em>.&nbsp; To do so would be disastrous to your relationship.&nbsp; But does this fit with Jesus&#8217; words?<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">I think that maybe it can.&nbsp; Jesus does say you need to <strong>go directly and privately<\/strong>&nbsp;to the person involved.&nbsp; It&#8217;s hard to get around that.&nbsp; But it <em>is<\/em> possible to help someone see their fault, to let them know <em>you <\/em>know, without being direct.&nbsp; Perhaps there is room in what Jesus says for culturally-appropriate indirect language.<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">I won&#8217;t take the time to talk about the ins and outs of direct and indirect confrontation, but if you see where I&#8217;m going with this one, feel free to stop by and leave your own comments!<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">Time for bed.&nbsp; If I can, I&#8217;ll drop by again after tomorrow&#8217;s sessions.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today we had the first half of the conference we&#8217;re attending in Puebla, Mexico.&nbsp; It&#8217;s being put on by Toby Casteel and Roger Oliver, both missionaries here in Mexico. 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